Alex, it looks like Anna has given you an answer to a question about choice, and although it’s a good answer, I’m not sure that’s quite it for you.
If I understand correctly, you see your choices in this circumstance to either overeat to the point where you feel “bloated, queezy & sluggish” or to eat nothing at all. There could be many other options which will not produce any downsides: a piece of fruit, a bit of cheese, a few olives, nuts or seeds, for example. Yes?
I assume that what’s happening is you’ve found it tough to stop at a few, so that any snack at all goes out of control and you only get to stop when you’ve overdone it. Which is why neither option appears satisfactory to you.
Is that it? Do I understand correctly what’s happening?