Yes I also think this way Guadalupe, I rebel against the fact that i want to lose weight because I also want to stop the self loathing battle with myself and learn to love myself regardless. But on the other hand I know that this body size is a result of some very disordered eating… so my body size represents a real lack of self love to me. I’m not saying that’s the case for everyone, just for me thats how it feels. So I’m thinking Gillian said any time we have any thoughts about our weight, positive or negative, to think of a weight related benefit straight away. Is that it Gillian, so when this internal dialogue about accepting/loving ourselves as we are we treat it as focusing on weight and think of a non weight related benefit?