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Gillian
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Jeanette,

More on this in Week 4 with “Plans”, but there are a couple of things you can try first of all – either one or both. One is to begin to practise in a circumstance where you won’t be quite so distracted by conversations. Then, when you’ve gained more of an ability to spot and manage your addictive desire, you move on to more distracting situations.

And another is to make at least some of the excess food at dinner less available, especially if you can do that in a way that’s a bit unusual. The difference in your routine would tend to wake you up in a sort of “why did I put the ice cream in the oven?” way, as you search for another scoop or two. Then, at that moment, you become aware of the desire.

You say, “I don’t feel the huge threatening monster; I don’t have a tight knot or a feeling of angst” and that might be because you’ve not done any dieting, which creates this sort of extreme negativity around unsatisfied desire. But also because you have always tended to feed the desire, albeit unconsciously. So the question is: if you leave it unsatisfied at any point, what will you then feel? TBA.