Nicola
I should add that my ex was extremely judgmental about my eating, and was constantly criticising me, and making up rules about what I should and should not be eating (he was insistent that I should follow a fat-free vegan diet like him). He even had eating rules posted on the kitchen cupboard (which I took great pleasure in removing when he left 3 weeks ago). So I have a lot of work to do on self-acceptance and self-compassion (thanks for those links, Gillian) and about building self-esteem through my eating choices.
Nicola x