Jenny, I want to encourage you to review Week 2 when you have time, if you haven’t already done so. Take notes, especially on the practical steps I describe in the “Solution” video.
I say this because it does seem that taking a stand on choice makes a huge difference for you – but perhaps only because you did that exercise very recently.
What may well be required is being somewhat more proactive or assertive about this concept on an ongoing basis. It’s not a massive, time consuming task – but it does require something.
My concern is that in time you’ll ‘drift’ back into denying choice and repeat the problem.
The “Solution” video in Week 2 explains it all.