Lara,
I want to make sure you didn’t miss my comment to you on June 2 in the thread “Translating owning choice”. You had posted that whenever and whatever you eat, it is your choice and you own it – and I replied to that.
I know that “I really need to make healthy choices” can be a code for “I’ve got to make healthy choices”, and it’s important for everyone to see the denial of choice before we can do anything about it.
Erin’s and Jodi’s posts here may be an inspiration for you, and please let me know if I’m misunderstanding you here.