Renee and Julie,
As well as acceptance of body and self, how about acceptance of having thoughts that are negative about your body?
Do you believe you could or should be 100% accepting of yourself 100% of the time?
I do believe in the idea that what you resist, persists. Part of the reason the addictive desire diminishes is because it is accepted! The paradox is that the less you fight it, resent it or think it should go away, the easier it becomes. The idea is: “what you embrace, dissolves”.
Maybe those self-critical thoughts, Renee, are painful because you make them mean something other than what they are?