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June 19, 2020 at 6:21 pm #8128Renée LParticipant
Hello Gillian and Everyone!
I’m curious to know your thoughts about using your technique for working through Addictive Desire to help reduce my painful/automatic self-critical thoughts about my body.
The thought occurred to me the other day that just as I can “lessen the sting” of my compulsion for food by using your technique, so too could I apply this same idea to other invasive “dramatic” (always negative and burdensome) thoughts about my body.
These themes all tie together for me and can spiral downward: hating my body…wanting to diet/control food/lose weight as the “solution” for this perceived “problem”, etc.
I’ve done a lot of work around body acceptance and 90% of the time feel love and acceptance for myself, but the other 10% of the time I feel “hijacked” by these thoughts and unable to reduce their occurrence/frequency.
I’d appreciate any feedback and am honored to be on this journey with you all.
June 19, 2020 at 6:34 pm #8129Julie MannParticipant
Renee I have the same issues, eager to hear Gillian’s response!
June 19, 2020 at 7:08 pm #8133GillianModerator
Renee and Julie,
As well as acceptance of body and self, how about acceptance of having thoughts that are negative about your body?
Do you believe you could or should be 100% accepting of yourself 100% of the time?
I do believe in the idea that what you resist, persists. Part of the reason the addictive desire diminishes is because it is accepted! The paradox is that the less you fight it, resent it or think it should go away, the easier it becomes. The idea is: “what you embrace, dissolves”.
Maybe those self-critical thoughts, Renee, are painful because you make them mean something other than what they are?
June 19, 2020 at 7:17 pm #8136Julie MannParticipant
Oooh so good Gillian. That’s such a great point. I don’t have to accept myself 100% of the time, I can learn to accept that there will be days I feel great about myself and days I won’t and that’s OK too…
It’s all about acceptance – of desire, of negative body thoughts, realizing that they will pass…
June 19, 2020 at 7:33 pm #8137Renée LParticipant
See…so happy I asked!
Such a good way to look at this issue and a perspective that I had not considered to adopt, up until now.
I will practice trying this.
June 19, 2020 at 7:41 pm #8138GillianModerator
Let us know how it goes.
June 19, 2020 at 11:42 pm #8140guadalupeParticipant
Thanks for this!
Sometimes its really hard to handle the situation with the size and shape of my body. Specially today, that tomorrow Ill go to the beach… But Im not staying at home just because IM FAT, as I did so many times..
Gillian, I dont understand what do you mean with this: “how about acceptance of having thoughts that are negative about your body?” You mean to accept my negative thoughts about my body? For example “I have the intention of accept and love my body even though I don’t like being fat”?
June 20, 2020 at 1:10 am #8143Julie MannParticipant
I love that you are going to the beach and living your life!!!
June 20, 2020 at 8:28 am #8145GillianModerator
Accepting thoughts that are negative about your body would be like:
“I hate my body!” and then you think, “Oh I just had some thoughts about hating my body. I do that from time to time and I can live with that.”
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