Gillian, are you familiar with Gretchen Rubin’s work, in particular on the Four Tendencies?
According to her framework, I’m an upholder. I’ve heard you say often that you are a rebel. I ask because I’ve been thinking a lot about the idea of choice and I’m wondering if you’ve ever noticed a pattern where rebels and questioners really embrace choice, and upholders and obligers have more trouble with it?
She also talks about people being abstainers or moderators. I’m very much an abstainer, I find it quite easy and gives me a lot of comfort. My daughter who leans more towards a rebel/questioner, does really well with moderation and would NEVER consider abstinence. Same with my mom.
Wondering if others have any thoughts/feelings on this?